The below advice from Paul Ferrini are words I tell my friends, but forget to tell myself... Always remember not to settle!!!
"Most of you know what you want, but you do not wait for it. You are constantly compromising your needs and your values to fit the situations which present themselves to you. You take the job or the relationship not because it offers you what you desire, but because you are afraid a better offer won't come. You live your life afraid to take risks because you do not want to give up the security you have.
I have news for you. That security is your death knell. It prevents you from asking sincerely for what you want.
If you are ready to release negative, masochistic, people-pleasing patterns, you must be willing to stand in the conviction of who you are, no matter how others respond to you. You must reach down deeply inside yourself and affirm yourself as you alone know yourself to be."
Paul Ferrini, in "The Silence of the Heart"